Guessing $EXY Terms w/ Jessica Kellgren-Fozard!

By | December 16, 2019

What is a golden shower? I don’t want to say that. Hi guys, I’m
Stevie and today I have the lovely Jessica Kellgren-Fozard here with me and
I thought that I would make her guess some sexy terms and see if she knows
what they mean. And I have a feeling that you’re gonna know what they all mean
actually. Really? Yeah, I think everybody’s gonna be like, “Oh my God, surprising!” Surprised that Jessica knows things. Yeah, I do actually use the Internet, it’s shocking, I realize. I did not expect you to say, “The Internet.” I thought you’d be like, “I’m an adult who has s*x.” Like obviously. I am happily,
married I’m also deeply monogamous, I was pretty much a virgin when
I met my wife. Oh my god, okay Disney princess. Here we go. So…. I chose some
hopefully monetization friendly BDSM words. You just said BDSM, how is that
monetization offending? Okay, so the first term is ‘rack.’
Oh, we have that one, b*obs. When you’re like someone has a nice rack. No, it’s an acronym. So, it’s R.A.C.K. and it stands for something. Can you guess what it’s about? What? R..A..C..K? I’m trying to think of dirty words that begin with R, A, C, or K. I’m too dyslexic for this. So, it stands for Risk Aware Consensual Kink, so it used to be S..
Why did you think I would know that? I’m not, it’s like tricking people into learning
things, you know? Oh, okay. I like making people learn things, too. It used to
be SSC so it used to be it’s like a general rule that you try to follow when
you’re playing so it used to be Safe Sane and Consensual, but the nature of a
lot of BDSM is not necessarily safe and so like what is safe mean? So, we, not
we, but the community Yeah, so the community decided to start
using the word ‘wreck’ to talk about being risk aware, so aware of all the
risks. Every single party involved is aware of the
risks so that you can make decisions that reduce the amount of bad things
that can happen. Sure. Also consensual. Because if you are not aware of the
risks then you can’t really consent. Very true.
Next is negotiation. That’s just a word. Yeah, but what does it mean in a BDSM
context? That you both agree on what you’re about to do so you talk about it
and one of you says, “I’d like to do this,” and the other one says “Okay, but maybe like
half way” and then the other ones like “Sure, let’s do that.” That’s the
negotiation. Yay! You nailed it. So, before you play anything, you
negotiate all of the stuff that you do want to do, that you don’t want to do,
that you might want to do but you’re not sure. Nailed it. You got one. I loved that you
were like bo*bs, I know this one, b*obs. Okay, what is a hard limit? Oh, that’s just something you definitely will not do. Say you’re like “We could do
this half way, but definitely not the full way.” Nailed it.
You got another one. Yeah, hard limit specifically is something that even if
you’re like the Dom or the top in a scene, you’re not allowed to break hard
limits just because there’s a power exchange and the person’s a submissive
or bottom. So hard limit is like people will have soft limits that’s like only
do this for extreme like punishment or like tease that you might do it or
whatever, but hard limit is like don’t even you know.. Don’t even think about it. I wanted
to do ‘safe word,’ but everybody knows what’s safe is so I’m not going to do it.
Okay, what is a masochist? These again are just words specific to the BDSM community. No, but it’s great to see people
are gonna be interested in seeing you say the word ‘masochist. Masochist. A masochist is someone who enjoys pain being done to themselves. Experiencing pleasure when you’re in
pain. Nailed it. Wow this video is going great. What is a
sadist? I say just to someone who enjoys inflicting pain on others. Oh my god,
you’re killing it. Before we were filming I was like it’d be so funny if she just
like nailed every single one and then look what’s happening. Except for rack. B*obs. What does vanilla mean? That would be like boring and plain.
Hmm. I mean, I say that but vanilla is actually my favorite flavor. You’re so perfect. So in a BDSM
context, what do you think vanilla means? Um s*x, it’s not particularly out there. Yeah. So, it could either describe a person or a situation so it would be not
kinky. I personally think that how vanilla someone is is how okay they
would be in their primary relationship with no kink involved, so like I I’m
pretty vanilla cuz like I don’t you know I don’t need to have a partner that is
into kink um but I’m also pretty kinky too you know what I mean? Because though you
can be a percentage of each and they don’t necessarily inform each other, but
then also the activities without kink is a vanilla activity. But it’s sometimes people
are like “Oh my god, she’s so vanilla.” You know? Like, Oh these vanillas over here
and try to pretend like whatever I don’t know. Cool. What is an electro sl*t? Oh, I was doing well until now. Electro sl*t? I’m having a great time. Someone who enjoys electronics? hmm That’s a good guess. What else could it be?
Someone enjoys what else that maybe begins with electro. Electro magnetism? Being shocked? Yeah! You did it! Okay, well done me. So, playing with electricity, so someone that
likes having like you can use cattle prods or stun guns but some there’s this
really beautiful when I’ll show you a video later, it’s called a violet wand
and I’m like you know those balls that used to touch with your fingers and it would
go like that? So it kind of looks like that on the
inside and they have different shapes and then you just like drag it across their
skin in it they like it. It sounds like hell to me. I have to quite regularly go
to the hospital and have electric shocks. Yeah, yeah some people like it. Because my
nerves are broken so they they try to make them better with shocking. What is a
golden shower? I don’t want to say that You know what it is. I know that one because
that was on the news. This was the best idea. So a golden shower is someone who likes to have urine put on them,
sprayed on them, they like to be peed on. So, since you know what a golden shower
is, what do you think a Roman shower is? Is it wax? I thought you would know this one because I thought you would know something about the Romans. Nice one. Yeah, we can move on, that one’s vomit. Um, so what do you think
after care is? Oh, you thought was a brown
shower? So you’d rather see you think okay yeah we can move on. Oh, by the way
the vermin thing about the vermatorium isn’t actually real, they didn’t go in
that tube moment. Oh, I have no idea what you’re talking about. I don’t know
anything about Roman history, so I I knew there was a historical reference. Because
the Romans had a room called a vomitoria
okay next to where they ate so people assumed that it was that they were ate
would eat a lot they go to the vomitoria and vomit, come back to the table and eat
more, but that’s actually not the case. That’s not what the word vomit meant to
them, it didn’t mean the same thing. Interesting. So it was just like
a miscommunication this whole. Huh so maybe they should rename it
something else. Maybe they should. It shouldn’t be called a Roman shower anymore. Okay the last word is aftercare. That’s when you’re nice to someone after
you have s*x with them. Yeah, so when you tend to everybody’s
needs and it’s not just the semester where the bottom the needs things cared
for sometimes it’s definitely the Dom or the top and you look after any wounds,
you maybe give eachother candy to suck on to like get some more endorphins
going, cuddles, but you cover what you want and aftercare during the
negotiation part. Okay. Yay, that was learning BDSM words with Jessica. We made
a video on Jessica’s channel where we try a bunch of different British accents
but she’s deaf and I’m American so it’s really terrible, but go check it out, I
watch it I laugh but please don’t judge us, I mean JC did enough of that so. Alright,
thanks for watching see you next time.

100 thoughts on “Guessing $EXY Terms w/ Jessica Kellgren-Fozard!

  1. Amy Aberrant Post author

    Stevie is pretty vanilla?? How am I more kinky than Stevie??

  2. Jade Post author

    God, I love you both so much, I would die just to get hugged by one of you. 🙁

  3. CatBat333 Post author

    Of course Jessica knows a lot of these, people. She. Writes. Fanfiction.

  4. ILikeChickenOkay Post author

    Jessica’s innocence makes me die i love her so much

  5. itsame torio Post author

    The jump from "vanilla" to "electroslut" made soup come out of my nose

  6. Drakan R Post author

    Jessica just sitting there and calling you a masochist is an S/M session all on it's own

  7. Reauna Post author

    Lets not forget that jessica reads and rights fanfiction. So do with that information as you will…..

  8. Bee Poshek Post author

    Gah Stevie your outfit is like my ideal gender presentation and just makes me like ? thanks for the fun video!

  9. asa.thealien Post author

    That fact about vomitoriums has been one of my favourite facts since I was a kid and I'm so sad to learn it's not true 🙁

  10. Osiris Malkovich Post author

    It's like you're discussing BDSM with a British lesbian Mr. Rogers

  11. Kiko Enjani Post author

    "I know that one cos that was on the news". Now I cant stop laughing.

  12. xQueenUwU Gaming Post author

    I never even was aware they knew each other!!? they’re both my favourite youtubers this is great!!!!❤️

  13. Mia V Post author

    Ok but why is Stevie legitimately such a good teacher? Like the way she asks questions and tries to lead to the answer on your own

  14. cubesofcheese Post author

    this is ingenious! i enjoy watching this as much as stevie did filming it ?

  15. Jack Wells Post author

    I wanted this to be shot in the nude and finish with a ? make out session ?

  16. Aella Lee Post author

    I learned the specific acronym rack, and the vomitrium thing meaning egress of lots of people

  17. Renee Lemay Post author

    Well to be fair about rack, you didn't tell her at first it was and acronym for anything. Because rack does mean boobs.

  18. Simon Bar Jesus Post author

    Stevie I dare you to do a thumbnail titled "How Is Dodie In Bed".

  19. Beatriz de Rosa Soares Post author

    “I know what golden shower is because it was on the news” and honestly I feel so ashamed for being Brazilian rn

  20. Erin G Post author

    Stevie looks so sexy in those overalls. And such a warm wonderful smile

  21. Larissa Sousa Post author

    Stevie's laugh when jess said electroslut so slowly was the highlight to me

  22. Bittersweet_N Post author

    I wasn't expecting to hear Jessica say some of these words, being the wonderful princess she is. Stevie, you are such a great influence on people xD

  23. RootsReclaimed Post author

    People like being puked on? Not to be judgmental but that’s DISGOSTEN.

  24. RootsReclaimed Post author

    Hard to sit through as an ace but I love Jessica so I’ll torture myself I guess.

  25. Stormeey World Post author

    Oh that's stevie and Jessica u guyz looks good together 🙂 more collab ??

  26. Laura Post author

    Did Jessica know what a golden shower is because of Bolsonaro? Please tell me she didn't lol i'm embarrassed of brazil

  27. Tosh Omni Post author

    Leave it to Jessica to turn a conversation about BDSM terms into an opportunity to teach us historical facts about ancient Rome. We are not worthy.

  28. Commodore BunniRabbit Post author

    Jessica is so precious! Hearing her say "Electroslut" made me giggle so much and her reaction to Golden Shower and Roman Shower was adorable.

  29. Jules Bartl Post author

    Yay, Stevie's in town! 😀 Brighton is a little gayer and a little hotter for it. Sorry about the weather. lol. (Waving at you from 7 dials)

  30. Tiana Matson Post author

    This is fantastic. Jessica was definitely perfect for this. She's such a delicate flower. Haha. LOVE IT!

  31. Sarah Just Sarah Post author

    Hi Stevie!

    I’m sarah!

    My apologies I saw the opportunity and I took it.

  32. Valentina Thompson Post author

    Stevie, the way you said "Oh I have no idea what you're talking about" KILLED me

  33. Cory Pearce Post author

    I just watched you on Jesse Lee Peterson. Did you ever see the movie kindergarten cop? “Boys have a penis and girls have a vagina.” It’s scary you don’t realize that.

    Feminism is cancer.

  34. Cory Pearce Post author

    One other thing. The reason you become a lesbian is because you were abused by a man when you were younger. So your take on the identity of a lesbian to protect yourself, by making yourself less attractive so it doesn’t happen to you again. You know it’s true

  35. Jane Doe Post author

    You're a darling Jessica?
    Why am I watching this,
    I'm so Vanilla??
    Never had any complaints though?
    I always wondered how do you know in BDSM that the person is not just being selfdestructive!
    I mean you can have self destructive patterns in your life that's not good for you, and you can also have that in your sexual life. How do you make sure?
    p.s great info about the
    misconception about the vomitorium!

  36. Larissa de Biase Post author

    "What is a golden shower" ("o que é golden shower") was a recent tweet from Brazil's president Bolsonaro (he is Trump's evil twin)

  37. luckytiger95 Post author

    Can you open the community subtitle file so I can edit it? There are a few things that are not transcribed correctly at all and create nonsense sentences that I would really like to help fix if at all possible!

  38. carolbuzelim Post author

    I love how different you are and how much you get along. Seen like me and my friends haha

  39. Sarah Stumpf Post author

    wait after care is cool but is it normal for serotonin to be low after sex?

  40. Chris Moon Post author

    Wow… I failed the first one too!
    I guessed the second one! YAY!
    Guessed the third one right too Woo-Hoo!
    This is fun and educational! I've learned some new things today too! ???
    4:35 Chuckles "you're so perfect!"
    Electroslut… Never really heard that word before, very interesting… i think my partner might like something like that, I haven't looked at the links yet, but would love to see if I could find the toy(s) for this! I was thinking more what's called E-STIM… is that the same?
    OH! I got roman shower right! wow! I'm surprised! I remember being taught that the vomitoriums they talked about in high school history class and thought EW… They would gorge themselves with food and vomit so they could eat more and overindulge, they taught me wrong! Wow, more learning lessons! Miscommunication, or lost in translation type of thing?
    Thank you for the excellent video! ???

  41. Candice Poe Post author

    My two crushes! In one place!! Oh it truly is a Christmas ? Miracle. Lol

  42. Marshie Bonnie Post author

    Hay Stevie ! I have a question- what if someone is constantly having wet dreams..?does it mean- they want it? Or no..I’m trying not to assume. I really wanna know- 😛

  43. Elenna Cruz Post author

    Stevie: Do you know what a Golden Shower is?
    Me, a Brazilian in 2019: * war flashbacks *

  44. Sonmi Hae-Joo Post author

    omg Jessica saying "Vanilla is my favourite ice cream flavour" <3 xD
    I had the same reaction as stevie ^^
    Love when you guys collab together ! 😀

  45. Nevena Ličina Post author


  46. ala Post author

    i’m so happy she knew the truth about vomitorium! but i wouldn’t expect any less from our history princess.

  47. Alyssa Marie Post author

    I absolutely love this collaboration and the discussed content <3

  48. Dexterity Post author

    I legit thought R.A.C.K stood for something like:
    And Klips
    …and now I feel so dirty ?

  49. Wolfgang R. Post author

    Am i the only one who doesn't like stevie and thinks her voice is annoying.

  50. Carboard Triangle Post author

    Can you please do a video reacting to the negotiation scene from 50 shades of grey?

  51. Impossible Lack Post author

    I want Jessica saying "electroslut" as my new mail sound.

  52. Karen W Post author

    Love you both! ❤️. Thanks for the early Holiday present ?. ??

  53. Call me Shakesqueer Post author

    If Jessica wasn’t married these two would be shipped

  54. Lauren W Post author

    I never knew Electroslut was the term I've been licking light bulbs forever

    Thanks for giving me the courage to come out

  55. Jinx Jones Post author

    ssc is still used, depending on the person. safe is from the persons point of veiw

  56. Yerin's girl Post author

    Jess is so so adorable and Stevie wheww looks so damn hot with that outfit like literally polar opposites

  57. shiroi201 Post author

    Jessie, being the pure disney princess she is, is the absolute last person i would think of for a collab on bdsm words ?


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